The goal of the first meeting is for them to walk with emotion and feel respected by you, if not each other. Once that`s done, you can bring them together (if you didn`t meet together the first time) and focus on getting the information you all need to resolve the conflict. Conflict is an essential form of communication. On a typical day, youth recount three or four conflicts with their parents and one or two conflicts between friends (Laursen & Collins, 1994). Conflicts signal the importance of themes and relationships, are a means of expressing worry and discontent, and serve as a vehicle for individual growth and relational transformation (Sillars, Canary, &Tafoya, 2004). Conflicts, defined as insolent behavioral opposition, are usually operational with respect to disagreements or incompatible behaviors. This name has the advantage of disentangling conflicts from competition and aggression and avoiding the problems that arise when conflicts are mixed with negative effects. Our aim was to describe the role that conflict plays in the conception of young people. We defined the conflict as a disagreement to identify all cases of opposition; We focused on conflicts with relatives and friends, because most young people report these relationships as their closest, most influential and conflict-prone information. We assessed the frequency of conflicts on the previous day of the week to maximize the chances that all disagreements had been recalled and reported.
And we limited the reports to school days because we were interested in factors that influence academic outcomes. Disagreements – In general, we are aware that there is some difference in the positions of the two (or more) parties involved in the conflict. But the real disagreement with the perceived disagreement can be very different from each other. In fact, the conflict tends to be accompanied by a considerable degree of misunderstanding that greatly exaggerates the perceived disagreement. If we can understand the real areas of disagreement, it will help us solve the right problems and manage the real needs of the parties. The sources of information are often different. Their source of information may be different from that of other people. And often, this creates different points of view. This can lead to a situation of disagreement.
While the results are generally consistent with our model, this study is not the last word on this. We could not identify moderate links between frequency of conflict and aggression, or anxiety and depression. These null results should be interpreted with caution. Although regression analyses are an appropriate technique for studying interactions with continuous variables, they tend to underestimate the actual effects (McClelland & Judd, 1993). Other issues should be taken into account in the interpretation of the results. . . .